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VIP Interview With Jaiden Lillith Events Organiser & Promoter For Sanctuary

VIP Interview With Jaiden Lillith Events Organiser & Promoter For Sanctuary

When you come across a place which welcomes all with a vibrant, accepting, social and fun community spirit, you really need to find out more about them. Sanctuary is an adult lifestyle venue which does just this! Sanctuary provides people with the opportunity to meet likeminded members of the fetish community. On the naughty side of Sanctuary, their venue does allow sex on the premises and light to hardcore BDSM play!

Sanctuary is famously known for showcasing some amazing kinky and fetish talent in the adult entertainment industry.  Sanctuary brings you the latest workshops, dance parties, classes, adult markets, BDSM product suppliers, burlesque performances, photography sessions and so much more! The venue can also be hired out for dungeon and kinky experiences.

By attending an event at Santuary, you will be in for a remarkable night that may just get hot and steamy with some incredible memories. The venue is also wheelchair accessible and easy to get to via public transport.  Sanctuary follows a strict code of conduct to ensure the safety of all individuals who attend any events. Sanctuary welcomes all sexualities, gender and ages from 18 and up.

This is a VIP Interview with Jaiden Lillith event’s organiser and promoter for Sanctuary.

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Image: Sanctuary Banner

Tell me about yourself

My name is Jaiden Lillith, Events Organiser and Promoter for Sanctuary. I have had a long background in event promotion and management in the music industry, and I’ve brought that knowledge and expertise to the world of BDSM and kink. I’m also a proDom/me, sex worker, kink educator, writer and musician.

What inspired the creation of Sanctuary?

All involved in Sanctuary have a passion for BDSM / Kink, equality and sex positivity. We wanted to create a purpose built venue for BDSM events and parties, to have an open minded, queer friendly LGBTIQAUP+ safe place where the kink community could gather openly to meet like-minded people, play, learn from one another and have a great time! All are welcome to our events and all are treated respectfully. Sanctuary is Sydney’s first legitimate Sex on Premises and BDSM events venue for the public.

Where is Sanctuary located?

Sanctuary is located just 10 minutes from the CBD, in the bustling suburb of Annandale. Our address is 191 Parramatta Road, Annandale.

What is Sanctuary’s venue like?

There are three floors to Sanctuary, it’s a very long venue with a BYO bar and cafe at the front. We have a number of comfortable couches and mattresses, an A Frame, a number of St Andrew’s crosses, multiple suspension points for rope / lyra / bamboo – at least 9 depending on the configuration, a sex sling, a stripper pole, spanking benches, various pieces of custom designed BDSM furniture, cages, and a medical room for needle / blood play. We have three toilets and two showers, and the ground floor is accessible to differently abled persons. There is mood lighting throughout the venue, and the basement area has a “suburbian garage dungeon” vibe. There is a stage on the ground floor for performances. The atmosphere is open, friendly and very kinky, and our recent renovations have given the venue a dark and alluring atmosphere.

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Sanctuary is famously known for being a kink events venue which celebrates people’s sexualities, sexual lifestyles and fetishes. Who would you recommend attend a Sanctuary event?

We have something to offer for everyone, from people new to the community and lifestyle to the most experienced kinksters. It is a very friendly and accepting atmosphere and we welcome people from all walks of life. We pride ourselves on being all inclusive, and have been complimented on the atmosphere of friendliness and acceptance where all the possibilities along the spectrum of sexual and gender identification are made to feel welcome and free to be their fabulous selves. We’ve also had pets, leather fetishists, latex wearers, adult babies, littles, Daddies, Mommies, Masters, Mistresses, slaves, submissives, puppies, kittens, ponies you name the kink, we’ve had them here! We’re proud to be a sex positive venue, and welcome couples, singles, groups to explore and play openly and consensually.

What are the benefits of attending an event with likeminded people?

While BDSM has become more accessible to the public, with the range of kinks and fetishes out there it can feel isolating when you don’t know anyone else who shares them. We’ve seen many people meet others who shared their interests and made life changing friendships and relationships at our venue, and it’s been beautiful to see. Attending an event with like minded people helps to build a stronger community, makes it a safer place and gives opportunities to learn and experience new things. Playing in a public environment is a great way to try new things with the comfort of knowing that there are people who have your back, and can be less intimidating than one on one meetings. And of course, the exhibitionists and voyeurs in us can have a great time in a public space! Who knows, you may even find a new kink you never knew you had!

What can people expect from attending an event at Sanctuary?

We host play parties and casual social focused events such as Rope Chill and the Markets. We have a strong focus on consent and safety, and maintain a balance between these values and the freedom of individuals to explore. Our staff and Dungeon Monitors are very experienced and are respected members of the BDSM community, who are excellent at unobtrusively making sure that events are safe and fun for everyone. There is no requirement for people to play if they attend, many first timers just come and watch and make new friends. Be prepared to perhaps see things that you’ve never seen before – from spanking and impact play, Shibari / rope play, suspensions, blood and needle play in the medical room upstairs, D/s dynamics of all kinds, and of course good old sex in all of its forms!  We also have live performers at the Sanctified parties, from Shibari to Burlesque to extreme performances. It’s a BYO venue with an alcohol check in – we have bartenders with an RSA to serve the alcohol. Sanctuary promotes and provides safe sex supplies and information for use at our parties.

What services does Sanctuary offer?

We proudly host a number of social events, specialist kink nights (Rope Chill), Fetish Markets, Swingers parties and BDSM / Kink parties, and also offer dungeon hire for up to 140 people – from the most intimate of private gatherings to public events, to photography / video shoots. It’s also a great venue for a naughty bucks or hens night out! The cafe sells soft drinks / cold drinks, freshly made coffee and a number of candies for purchase.

What events are your best sellers?

Threshold has been one of the longest running pansexual BDSM parties in Sydney and we are proud to host them on the third Saturday of every month! We also run the Sanctified parties on the last Saturday of every month, and they always have a different theme such as our Gender FVCK night which has been a big hit and is returning for New Year’s Eve, our upcoming Pet Play party, and more! We have so many great theme ideas and we’re looking forward to all the imaginative, sexy and sometimes wonderfully terrifying ways that people can engage with the themes for events. Our regular Rope Chill event on Tuesday nights is a big hit with all the rope enthusiasts, and is a playground for beginners through to some of the community’s finest Shibari artists. Our monthly Fetish Markets are also a great place to meet people, pick up some great toys or fashion and support the local community’s creations – we accept stall holder applications from all members of the public.

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Image: Sanctified Gender FVCK

What do you love most about Sanctuary?

What I love the most about Sanctuary is the atmosphere of fun and acceptance and seeing people find their tribe for the first time – when I hear people telling me that they have finally felt that they’ve found a place that they feel comfortable and at home in it definitely gives me the warm fuzzies. It’s one of the driving forces that motivates me to look for more ways to provide fun and fulfilling events for the kink community. And well, seeing people doing wonderful and terrible things to each other and hearing all the slappy, thuddy, moany sounds echoing through the venue during our parties is also extremely hot!

What have been your most memorable events or moments at Sanctuary?

There have been so many! The Gender FVCK event was definitely a highlight and something close to my heart- as we’ve said before our venue is all inclusive, but having an event dedicated to to those who sit outside the binaries of gender definitely encouraged everyone to come out loud and proud – I love seeing the lines blurred and people expressing themselves from all along the gender spectrum, and it was beautiful to see some people taking their steps into a different skin for the first time, and finding their joy in that as well as all those who have been walking a different path feel like they have found a place of their own. Helping some boys pick out their dresses was adorable and it was lovely to see them strutting their stuff around the venue. We’ve had amazing performances from burlesque entertainers such as Pixie Lust and her sexy spider dance and Bettie Bandit as Vampirella, both of which required drop sheets for both spider jizz(!) and fake blood…

What does the future hold for Sanctuary?

We look forward to hosting more and more events and seeing our community grow!

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Anne O Nomis Dominatrix Talk and Q&A

Anne O Nomis spent four years researching the Dominatrix to write the first ever book on the Dominatrix’s history and practices. Her framework ‘The Seven Realm Arts’ has become the training curriculum used in dungeons around the world, to teach trainee Mistresses.

She began with a one year internship in one of Australia’s most famous dungeons in 2009, under tutelage of some 15 Dominatrices, before travelling to Paris and onto London. There she researched the Dominatrix in dungeons and in the “forbidden books” of the British Library, prints and artworks in the storage vaults of the world’s top museums and archives.

Gaining a Masters degree in Archaeology from UCL (University College London), she traced the ancient roots of the Dominatrix and BDSM from ancient Goddess religion, to the female flagellant Governess of the 17th – 19th Century, to the bizarre ladies of the 20th Century underground. Travelling to Hanoi in Vietnam to write the book, she requested and was granted permissions from museums and galleries around the world to reproduce historic images of Dominatrices for the first time.

Her book ‘The History & Arts of the Dominatrix’ has become regarded as the Dominatrix’s bible, favourably reviewed in fetish magazines and by Dominatrices themselves.

Anne O Nomis teaches the Dominatrix Diploma Seven Realm Arts course in Melbourne, in Tuscany at ‘Villa Domme’, and is an invited speaker at Oz Kink Fest and other fetish events around the world.

This is the first time Nomis has given a Dominatrix talk in Sydney, and comes after receiving many requests to do so. It comes ahead of her teaching the Dominatrix Diploma in Sydney on the 4th-5th March 2018.

The fascinating talk comes with Powerpoint presentation of her research and of Dominatrices through the ages, and she will be answering questions at the end of the talk.

Date: Saturday 3rd February 2018
Time: 2.30 – 4.30 pm
Venue: Sanctuary, 191 Parramatta Road, Annandale, NSW 2038
Tickets: Limited tickets available $20: (Door sales available if not sold out in advance)

*There will be a limited supply of hardcopy books for sale on the day, or you can order online with this discount code “WithinAustralia” at

Anne O Nomis, Derelicte Trash Parade, Fetish Markets, Love is Love Swingers Party, Wicked Unicorns Party OH MY!

We have so many sights to show you!

This week, the Sanctified Derelicte Trash Parade is on! It’ll be a fun night of burlesque, trash and kink. The wonderful Violetta De Rose will be performing a long set, and all your fun dungeon needs as always will be there. Click below for more details.


The first Fetish Markets of 2018 is on Sunday 28.01.2018.


Our very first Swinger’s party ever! Love is Love, a swinger’s event for everyone! All are welcome, regardless of gender, sexuality or any orientations! Click below for more details.


We have a pre Mardi Gras event planned! Wicked Unicorns Sanctified event is on with Joshua James, Pixie Lust and DJ Craig McKellar!



Happy New Years!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! Thanks to all you wonderful people who turned up to our party, to the lovely ones who brought all the jelly shots, to the unicorn on whom terrible things were done, to all our staff and supporters, our performers all throughout the year, Bettie Banditespecially for turning up on New Year’s Eve to give us a hot and sexy performance – we love you all and had such a great time. Here’s looking to a great 2018!    


Happy Halloweeners! Announcing Sanctified Animal Farm Pet Play Party (Nov) and Sanctified Gender FVCK New Year! (Dec)

Thanks to all you wonderful people for turning up last night and making it another awesome Sanctified! We loved our sexy burlesque performers Bettie Bandit and Pixie Lust – you know you’re in for a good night when both the performers tell you they’re going to be using drop sheets! Spiders, Hellraisers, spider jizz, blood and boobs, yay! Xerstorkitte put on a pulsating dark set of tunes that many people used to… *ahem* great effect. There was some beautiful rope from Lillith tying a ghost bride, a bloody impact scene from some of our regulars, medical room antics and a whooooooole lot of fucking going on upstairs.

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Thanks again to Sharon from In Visible Light for doing another great job at the bar and our fabulous DM’s for looking after everyone and making sure they have a fun and safe time!

Our next party is November 25th, Sanctified – Animal Farm – Pet Play Party! Hope to see you there in your furries, latex, leather, wings, ears, tails, and all the fun things! Adam Apple will be performing as well as the gorgeous Joshua James, and we’ll have DJ’s from our friends at Incub8 putting on tunes during the night.

Also keep an eye out for our very special Sanctified Gender Fvck New Years celebration! WE’RE GONNA FVCK IT AGAIN!

Performers announced for Sanctified – A Very Sexy Halloween 28th Oct

Bettie Bandit

Bettie Bandit is a Bettie Page inspired performer known for her sass, sex appeal, killer curves and cheeky stage presence. Being no stranger to the stage, Bettie engages her audiences and leaves them wanting more each time. She’ll bring you into a world of heavy metal, fetish, glamour and all round fun. Considering herself a horror queen and lover of all things spooky, Bettie will be bringing an act to the night that tanatize your sexy gore senses as she becomes a much loved horror character.

Pixie Lust

“Artist, Burlesque, Performer, Freak, Comedian
Erotic nymph clown from outer space.
Tabu, controversial, sexually empowered.
I wanna make you think… Explore different worlds.”


Thanks you Gender FVCKERS! And announcing Sanctified – A Very Sexy Halloween

Oh my!! What an amazing night we had at the Sanctified Gender FVCK Edition on Saturday, so many pretty boys girls, ladies gents and everything in between! We certainly Gender FVCKED and it was glorious! You all looked fabulous and delicious and it was wonderful to see everyone letting loose and dressing up in their finest!

Thanks to Craig Mckellar for the banging tunes and the gorgeous and talented Ethan Strange for such a breathtaking performance. We hope to see a lot more of you. And who could forget the surprise very sexy and messy performance from a certain blonde sexbomb! We’ll never look at lollipops in the same way again! Maybe. Nah we always looked at them that way really, right?

We love you all and can’t wait to see you at the next one! Thank you all for coming and making it such a night to remember!! Xoxoxox <3

Our next Sanctified party is on Halloween! Come and get FVCKED with a spooky twist! As always all Sanctuary events are totally queer, gender fluid and LGBTQiA+ friendly and you are encouraged to bring your fabulous selves to the party. BUT WITH A TERRIFYING TWIST. AAAAAAAAIIIEEEE

Sanctified – A Very Sexy Halloween – 28 October


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Back to the 80’s Play Party – Presented by Dragon’s Den

DO YOU REMEMBER THE 80’S? NO? NEITHER DO WE! But we’re celebrating the good times, the big hair times, the spandex times, the glorious bushy bits times by throwing an 80’s Play Party, organised by the Dragon’s Den!

It will be fabulous! It will be big! It will be sparkly! Ladies in red! You hip squares! GODDAMN, TURN IT UP AND TURN UP!